Laura’s determination brought her to consult a medical specialist to save her relationship which is now on the right track
Laura is a young lady, she is 30. Her partner suffered from premature ejaculation and had difficulties in admitting it. When everything seemed lost, Laura decided to make one final attempt, seeking help from a specialist…
“I was very much in love with my partner. I had always liked him physically and we had many interests in common. At the beginning of our relationship I had fantasised about the first time we would make love. But the first time was a disaster, like most of the other times that followed. The desire, passion and excitement never culminated in penetration because he could not control himself and make it to sex. I tried to talk with him about the problems we had in the bedroom, in a delicate way so that he would not feel mortified, sadly to no avail. He said he was too excited or stressed or tired or overworked. I was very much in love with him, he was very sweet, and I accepted the situation. But then I realized how much this was driving us apart. He began to avoid intimacy and the few times we were trying to make love he was too much focused on his performance and did not pay attention to my needs.
I realised that if we continued like that, we would drift apart and eventually break up.
It was then that I decided to make one final attempt and contacted a sexual health centre in my town, one that I had found looking up on the Internet. I had the first consultation online. I felt so relieved when from the sexologist’s very first words I realized there was a solution to the problem. So I made an appointment with her, and the first time I went to see her alone. On that first appointment I told her about my partner’s symptoms and about our relationship. She gave me advice that helped me raise the issue again with my partner and be more relaxed in dealing with the situation, because at that point I finally realized that the problem could be solved.
The doctor gave me advice that helped me to convince my partner to visit her, at least once. I think he did it for me, he was very sceptical at the beginning, but then, one hour later, when he left the doctor’s office he was not the same person that had entered it. He seemed relieved, heartened by the doctor’s words, he had understood that premature ejaculation is much more common than people think, and that tackling and beating this condition is possible. We are now dealing with it together, having couple counselling and he is taking a drug the doctor has prescribed him to help improve control which has made him feel more relaxed and confident.
It’s been only a few months since the day I thought of consulting a doctor in what I saw as the last attempt to rescue our relationship, and things between us are much better now and I’ve returned to look with confidence to our future together.
One thing I’d like to tell men is that suffering from premature ejaculation does not mean you are ‘less of a man’. Being a man means taking courage and deal with a condition that is affecting your life and the life of those who are close to you, to find a solution.”